The importance of being mysterious

As a younger woman, I used to think there was merit in shock value. I thought the more out-of-pocket my words and actions, the more enamoured of me my love interests would be.

The part, I find, that convinced me of using shock value as a long term device was really my own impatience. 

As an older woman I am learning the importance of mystery and delayed gratification in building a solid bond with the man I want. 

Now as the Holy Spirit is teaching me patience, the more I understand that there is explosive power in the wait; the careful contemplation; the holding.

And that power, even though, revealed at the end, certainly provides benefits throughout the build-up.